Positive Negativity

           It's impossible to avoid negativity. In fact, by trying to avoid it you actually draw it toward you. Really, nothing is negative or positive... you just perceive it that way. You can never really know if an event is truly negative or positive until the story plays out and you see the outcome. In life sometimes that takes time.
          
           Some of the most "negative" experiences in my life have led to some of the most wonderful things I have in my life today. "Negative" things are not something to be afraid of. In fact, something wonderful usually comes out of it. Sometimes things take time to unfold. However, you can rest assure, everything and everyone is just perfectly in their place and right where they are supposed to be. Every leaf and every tile. Every mother and every child. :)

           Maybe sometimes you resist "negative" emotions. Sadness, loneliness, anger, or bitterness to name a few. These are not "negative" feelings. They are just feelings. The good news is that they pass. Sometimes things take time. Patience can be hard... but I find if I take the time to feel the feeling... how it effects my body... deeply just let it have its way with me even for a moment- it lightens and eventually passes. It takes less energy then fighting them and having them come back even harder with you later because you haven't dealt with them.

                              * "What you resist will persist" *

            Maybe you can't handle being around "negative" people. Unfortunately this is unavoidable as well. The trick to negativity is that there is always some kind of positivity to be found in it. Someone close to you may be going through something they perceive as "negative". Therefor they are experiencing "negative" emotions that they need to feel and share. Its good to remember this happens to all of us at sometime or another. You can even get excited for this person! Through adversity comes strength and growth. Through overcoming obstacles and learning how to cope with negative emotions its possible to gain much inner peace and self esteem. There are many positive things that are gained through "negativity". When "negativity" is fought it fights back. When it met with compassion... it usually quiets down on it's own. Some things take time. When something "negative" occurs never forget there is at least 1 positive thing that comes from it. Try to always look for what you can learn from "negativity" and find that 1 positive thing... and therein lies the beauty of Positive Negativity. <3


Here's a little ancient story that was past on to me that I'd like to pass on to you :) 

 The Chinese farmer

There is a Chinese story of an old farmer who had an old horse for tilling his fields. One day the horse escaped into the hills and, when all the farmer's neighbours sympathised with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, 'Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?'

A week later the horse returned with a herd of wild horses from the hills and this time the neighbours congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, 'Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?'
Then, when the farmer's son was attempted to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this very bad luck. Not the farmer, whose only reaction was, 'Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?'

Some weeks later the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer's son with his broken leg they let him off. Now was that good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?

****MUCH LOVE AND BLESSINGS****
                   The White Siren

Collision Capabilities...

                      Life can feel like a one man ship sometimes. There are times in life when I feel that if I don't keep my head down and eyes straight... disaster could be right ahead. It's almost like every one's soul has its own road and if you stray too far from yours, eventually you will be put back on your rightful path. With all this trying to figure out how to navigate your own little "yellow brick road" .. what happens when suddenly you collide with the other people you are bound to run into along way?
                      There are roles in life I never thought I would have to play. The farther you get into this life business.. the more you see that everyone plays every role at some point. Cheated / been cheated on, lied/ been lied to, rejected, and so on. Sometimes we are put into situations to gain understanding of things we have done in our past's. And sometimes we are put in other people's  lives simply to teach them things we already learned. Not in a concious way, but in a natural way. The way its exactly intended without us manipulating anything. Purely. Every interaction is indeed sacred ground. But the true trick to dealing with people, while trying to deal with yourself is..
                      Remember, people are just people. That's all they can be. We ALL fall short. We ALL mess up, word vomit, and just epically lose once in a while. We ALL lose people we love. We ALL deal with heartache and struggle. NOBODY is in this alone unless they choose to be. Don't forget your compassion when you look at whoever your playing  "opposite" in tomorrow's drama. Maybe that person who was short with you in the line at the super market had a day just a little worse than yours. Maybe that last person you dated is so emotionally and mentally crippled from being such a douche.. that they really need you to wish them well. Okay, that wasn't very compassionate.. but hey humor is a great thing to fall back on :) . If you cant be nice or compassionate.. at least be slightly amusing so your at least bringing something to the table.
                      Bitterness does pass. If you let it. You can live in anytime you want to live in. Life is a collection of your thoughts and what you focus on. Manifestation is one of my specialties. My life drastically swings based on what I am thinking and focusing on.. to the point it can get seriously bad or good depending on where Im holding my state of mind. In order for me to hold my state of mind steady, I need to alligned with my spirit. If I can manage to keep my ego out of all that too.. Im okay. Life is a balancing act. Its not easy for anyone.

"Be Kind, for everyone is fighting their own battle." ~ unknown

                      There is one simple word that can be the hardest thing in the world : FORGIVENESS. I certainly haven't perfected it. But I'm working on it. Forgiveness isn't really for anyone but you. Its not about letting someone off the hook or letting it go so they don't feel bad. Its about letting go of whatever it is so YOU don't have to feel bad anymore. And for every person Ive hurt.. this lesson has spread. And for every person that has (recently) hurt me... I'm learning the lesson more deeply. There is a common bond that holds us all together.. we are all human beings. We all have feelings, and thoughts, desires, and words that throw us off sometimes. And somehow in the process of pardoning someone else for stepping on my toes.. I feel less guilty about the times I accidentally did the same thing.. unknowingly. So on that note...
* Play the role you are in right now to the fullest. Feel every bit of it. But be careful.. one day you will be on the other side of it.*
*Thoughts are things.. What are you thinking?*
*When people come at you... keep just a little extra compassion and forgiveness in your back pocket or purse. After all, didn't REM say that "Everybody hurts sometime?" LOL...*
Till my next rant xoxo ...
<3 SIREN <3

                So, they say life is a dance. A little corny but true. Throughout the course of your life your bound to have many partners then. Some you've dated, some teachers, family, friends, co workers.. all sorts of people you will have interacted with. Take a moment and think about who your partner is at any given time. Each time you finish a dance there is still a little feeling.. just a bit of residue left behind by the person you were just close to. 

                In  this life, we cant get away from the bonds that hold each of us together. We are all tied and bounded in ways that will never quite be able to be explained. Some people you will run into will give you that feeling you've known them forever. There are souls you may recognize and want to follow again in this life. 

                           

LIFE IS MORE THAN A RANDOM SEQUENCE OF EVENTS.

 

                 There is a method to the madness which is called life. There is an underlying tone sitting beneath everything waiting for you to discover it. There is more to this Universe and to your own soul than reading newspapers, cups of coffee, and the daily grind. Where is your inspiration.. or better yet- where did you leave it behind? Or who took it from you? This blog is intended to be a source of inspiration and safety for people, like me, who are looking for truth and light. There is more to life than meets the eye and every time I think I know anything.. I am proven wrong and surprised. Life is beautiful even in the midst of pain and change. There is something wonderfully nostalgic and sentimental about the days turning into weeks, then fly the months and years.. Everything is perfect. You are perfect. When things seem so wrong... PERFECT! Everything goes exactly how its supposed to go, and that you can always count on. So come check in here with me.. my little place in cyber space :) If you need some reassurance, hope, inspiration... or just a place to be yourself and feel understood.  <3 Siren <3